Harnessing Happiness with Sarah J Naylor

Welcome to the Harnessing Happiness podcast.

and I am absolutely thrilled as I bring

harnessing happiness back after a short I say

short hiatus just over a year of pressing

pause for other projects and other things but

I have got the fabulous the awesome the

wonderful Louise budget back as a guest which

is just I'm absolutely thrilled I'm absolutely thrilled

in fact Louise is how this episode is

happening because she reached out to me said

it's a pause but oh no let's redo

it it's exciting yes absolutely can you tell

I'm a little bit excited Louise has already

been a guest twice before her episodes have

been downloaded in the hundreds and I'm just

really excited to bring forth more from Louise

because I love being in her company more

than anything I think perhaps a little bit

selfish but anyway let's talk about Louise Louise

is a coach she is a storyteller and

she is also the author of the quiet

roar stop pretending you are fine right let's

dig in Louise welcome back and thank you

for inspiring me to bring harnessing happiness back

right now say hello to my awesome audience

hello and I can't tell you I am

also excited to be back in Sarah's world

so get ready for for a conversation like

no other because when we start we have

a habit of flying off in lots of

different exciting directions but it all makes sense

to us so we hope it makes sense

to you but Louise are honestly really welcome

back and I'm so excited your book is

just awesome and I can't wait for us

to sort of dig into it I suppose

really we ought to start at the beginning

though what inspired you to write the book

I mean I know your story but it's

not for me to tell it it's can

you share with everyone you know where it

all started what I loved about reading your

book myself everything resonated with me because it's

all how I live my life anyway but

even though I live my life by your

belief system and everything that you talk about

it's such a fantastic reminder because you go

oh god yes I forgot about that oh

yeah there's a name for that oh there's

just there's just so many points for anybody

that's curious or even on the same path

so the book actually took five years from

from the first words being handwritten to to

me actually writing it editing and publishing it

so five years is a long time and

it's not five years of writing Sarah it

was five years of part one and part

two dropped down to me in COVID actually

when I was sitting the oak tree one

day and I had just finished reading Big

Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert where she talks about

creative energy and when that comes to honour

it and I thought well hold on a

minute I think I'm about to start writing

my book I've always known I was going

to write a book which I reckon there'll

be lots of listeners and viewers that will

think I know I'm going to write a

book so I say don't wait you know

listen to your creative energy and let that

creative start to flow so I wrote quite

a lot of words under the oak tree

over four days three thirty thousand actually and

I had by hand I had wrist ache

I put it to one side because there's

something guiding me to say right you you've

you've got that now in rough form you

the next part of your book hasn't actually

been written because you've got to experience it

and that was the last five years so

it was only last year when a lovely

friend of mine said please finish your book

Louise the world needs to hear what you've

got to say on so many different topics

and lots of those topics weave through the

book I thought you know I'm going to

because actually the last five years are my

part three so the quiet roar is a

journey that I take myself on and invite

you to walk with me essentially is a

walk back to truth across lots of different

topics you'd obviously done those 30,000 words

when we met because it was 20 21

I think that we met doing an online

programme I felt like I was I was

in some sort of sort of cyclone I

don't know I didn't really quite understand what

I was doing but what I did gain

from it was you obviously meeting yourself and

some so many other amazing people from across

the globe which has been part of my

journey but that was part of your journey

of course as well as you go into

in in the book and of course having

met you earlier on I knew when I

was reading the book I'm going what about

this bit what about that bit but you

know you as you said yourself you needed

to go on that journey to carry on

with your experience of life I mean I

know a big focus of the book is

is trusting your intuition well in fact you've

got your five T's haven't you you've got

trust time test transitions and truth which is

the truth of who we are and who

we're meant to be and digging into all

of that because I think we get oh

gosh here we go this this so much

and I know you are a hundred percent

with me on this the noise the narrative

the stuff that's out there that is trying

to control us to be something that somebody

else wants us to be not actually who

we are and as you rightly say our

superpower is our intuition it is knowing that

and that's what you talk about so beautifully

in the book and you hold the reader

rather than so many of these books that

are do this do that follow my blueprint

this is it's not about a blueprint you

are your own blueprint so I love how

you hold the readers hand and share your

story as well so I mean how much

of your story would you like to share

right now because it's it's pretty yet you've

been through it haven't you Louise let's face

it I've had a number of challenges shall

we say and I believe there are now

zooming out on my own life and obviously

having written the book they were all part

of my story to be a book one

day so I could help other people who

may have one of my challenges they may

have been challenged by illness they may have

been challenged by family relationships they may have

been challenged by horrible car accident they may

have been challenged by never feeling like they

were enough there's so many different things we've

through and I really wanted people to realise

it's not this book is about me but

it's not about me it's about you it's

about you owning who you are in your

your uniqueness and your brilliant sparkly energy that

you have underneath what can feel heavy in

life I sit here now and I am

a completely different person but nothing's actually essentially

changed I still live in the same house

I've got the same husband I've got the

same kid la la la but my perspective

on life has changed because I've cleared out

I've got out of my own way and

the energy then is pure and sparkly and

it's creative and that gives you flow in

in life and and how you how you

turn up for your day I mean we

call it doing the inner work I mean

people say well what is the inner work

but it is it's about being curious isn't

it and you mentioned the word perspective and

it's about getting out of your own way

because actually the words in fact that was

one of the pages I've highlighted in the

book about the words and the dialogue that

we use because once you understand how powerful

language is in the way you think you

speak you write and how you the perspective

you have on what you're experiencing once you

change that narrative you experience the world in

a completely different way but your examples because

of your lived truth that I mean if

you flipped all of that and took the

negative you would be a completely different person

and yet whenever I'm in your energy I

just always I always feel like I've been

washed with calm when I love that it's

just lovely it's just that I've been with

Louise again to that point sometimes partners will

say to their wife or girlfriend do you

not need to go and see Louise do

you not need to go out for lunch

and we will go and have a session

with Louise it's it's a feeling that I

know I have that I know I have

that ability to make people see them themselves

in a sparkly energy and that's that's my

that's my gift Sarah I leave people better

than I found them but in answer to

your question again it's it's the going through

the challenges it's people said to me many

times with my illness which was cancer twice

oh why you it's so unfair you've already

been through so much and I used to

say to myself why not me I'm I'm

no different from anybody else but I saw

I saw each challenge that I've had as

an opportunity to grow and learn I didn't

see each challenge as a whoa me oh

my god language is so important when you

talked about that a minute ago because when

I had cancer I really threw myself into

the research of how cancer comes to be

and what I could do to help myself

and there are so many books so many

fabulous people that can help you research that

I was on a show yesterday cancer active

Chris Woolham Sunday show and without him I

might not be here because he speaks the

common sense of cancer so it's becoming curious

as a person that's been challenged not to

say oh well nothing I can do I'll

probably be I'll probably be really unwell then

I'll probably die no I never ever thought

that but the biology there's a fantastic book

biology of belief and I started to visualise

myself being healthy healthy cells pinging up all

over my body and I know I healed

myself whole Sarah I know I did because

of my mind because it's not everything starts

in your mind so people you say you're

amazing Louisiana bald head you look like death

grey and no hair no nothing anywhere but

I felt fine I was always smiling not

always mine but I could smile because actually

I knew I was healing and I knew

I I was lucky that I had found

this opportunity to develop and grow personally that

might sound a bit strange to something especially

if you're in the middle of cancer and

you haven't got that perspective but I like

to say please be curious about healing yourself

you can go out in nature look at

your food look at your language because it

all matters absolutely one of my coaching clients

have been working with the last three years

she healed herself through leukaemia she was in

hospital but she just spent all that time

focussing on healing and she healed herself through

the leukaemia so the power of the mind

cannot be underestimated I mean obviously in today's

world we have got an amazing amount of

scientific knowledge which obviously helps and I know

you I mean you've been through the system

and I know it's not something we're going

to particularly dwell upon today but a big

part of that was your intuition in in

the knowing the inner knowing because you were

tuned into your body which again is really

really important I mean I had issues when

I was pregnant and I knew I was

fine but I was going down the medical

route to have for my son to have

a blood transfusion while I was in the

womb which didn't actually happen but all the

time I felt within myself I felt absolutely

fine but you know when you tune into

your body but it's taking that time to

be still isn't it to to listen to

feel because we we know we've I hear

people going well there's a chatter done yet

we've got we've got two bits that chatter

in our brain haven't we've got the that

nice calm supportive voice which is the intuition

then you've got the ego mindset that's going

but once you recognise the two you can

sound that one out trust in this one

and you can you can actually rise above

both of them because you have it's like

being in the driving driving a car isn't

it you have control over what your thoughts

are so when you capture yourself having a

negative thought it's about reframing that and then

going actually what's the positive reframe of that

how can I take advantage of this what

can I do to heal myself how can

I think positive I'm going all tingly Louise

that that is a sign so Sarah you're

absolutely right and the quiet rule when I

really got down last year to actually really

bringing all the parts together I knew that

this was a powerful book and the first

person I gave to read most of it

she said this book will save lives because

straight away saw that thread of when you

trust yourself in a medical situation you are

going to be brushed aside I've lost two

friends to cancer because they didn't ask uncomfortable

questions they didn't like to be made a

nuisance they didn't they didn't trust themselves enough

to ask the questions they were they didn't

know and maybe I had to lose two

friends to cancer to to when it came

to to my scenario or my story that

I could say it happens use your own

intuitive power so when your bottom hits the

seat in the doctors and the science says

everything's fine but you still know it's not

carry on pushing on for more tests say

you do know because that is why I'm

here because both times I was dismissed as

a neurotic middle-aged woman there's nothing wrong

with you one doctor actually shook her hands

above her head said for goodness sake Louise

go and get on with your life you

haven't got cancer I mean yeah yeah we

have to find our quiet rule and that's

why I call it quiet rule it's not

about being hysterical it's not about shouting and

blaming it's just about owning what is coming

through for you and saying no you have

to listen to me and and that one

of the big strong messages I want the

book to come through with because there is

a lot of of that still happening no

well unfortunately it is it's this societal societal

patriarchal narrative that's come through mainstream media and

you know you start to talk about how

other people are responding but they're a product

of all of this narrative as well and

that's why everything has to come back to

the self you have to take responsibility for

you it's not anybody else's responsibility to how

you feel how you are how you experience

life because it is all down to you

and it's about loving yourself as well it's

the power to love yourself it's not being

selfish it's self-care at its highest you

know you've got to look after yourself and

you have to look after yourself first and

foremost because it's like they say I mean

it's a stereotypical analogy but when they're on

an airline and they say get your own

air you know oxygen on first look after

yourself first before you start to look after

anybody else because you you can't you can't

operate on empty you've got to be fuelled

up to be able to help anybody else

it's really interesting to say that because in

the book you see how I was completely

on empty and the first part of the

book called unravel is and I am no

very typical woman of a certain age I've

amazed a family working etc etc and I

really wanted to weave that in to show

that it's not how we're supposed to live

it is not how we're supposed to live

really isn't we're not doing which is one

of my favourites we're a human being so

that's a really important part that I hope

is left in the heart reader that they

think hold on a minute I am doing

too much where am I looking after myself

where am I just allowing some space to

just have nothing in my diary I mean

I have friend and she came over him

she showed me her diary and I almost

almost fainted she had no space for anything

but she's just changed so that's good life

is short we've got to not panic about

life being short but look after ourselves really

look after us it's interesting I didn't know

the full extent of your backstory if you

like and I for somebody that spent 36

years in recruitment you know I always find

I like to hear all the pieces of

the part the puzzle I like to understand

you know why people are the way they

are I'm just obviously I like people that's

why I like coachings you do as well

but how busy busy you were and then

all of the house and doing all of

that I'm gonna holy moly yeah and I

it resonated with me because having spent you

know recruitment is a similar sort of sector

to the one that you've been working in

you're busy you're on it all the time

and it suits my personality to be perfectly

frank you know I like that variety I

like that busyness but then you start to

have this dialogue oh yeah I'm busy doing

you have been conditioned by society to think

that that's what success means you've got your

busy busy busy busy busy but it's not

it's about understanding yourself I mean I'm sitting

here recording this in my lounge looking out

of the window having moved two and a

half years ago and I've got a front

garden that's just looks like a cottage garden

don't live in a cottage it's a 70s

bungalow but you know it's just everything's just

been allowed to grow all the wild poppies

and wild marigolds and it's just beautiful and

it's just appreciating even the small stuff and

looking at the detail and just enjoying the

beauty of what is and having those moments

of stillness because all the time we're busy

busy busy leaping from one thing to the

next you don't have that time to breathe

you know I mean I was busy on

Saturdays I did park run in the morning

then we we flew home and then we

flew down to the beach to have a

high tide sea swim lovely you know I

was just lovely like just in in the

sea for half an hour just sort of

bobbing about it's not really swimming it's just

sort of bobbing about and chatting and it's

just taking that time isn't it to to

be and you were so busy and that's

I think that's when was that the car

accident that then happened as well yes the

car accident then happened and I was diagnosed

with so so from being as I talk

about myself in the book as the Queen

of juggling which I was literally people used

to say I'll give it to the Queen

of juggling she'll find a little to pick

up and and do that with and I

do believe and that's where the book starts

when the universe called my name because I

do think that car accident did reroute me

and I ended up with PTSD which if

anybody's had that you just realise how horrendous

that is and I wouldn't have been able

to name a ball let alone pick a

ball up afterwards I was just not not

well for many many months and again I

was let down by the the system shall

we say and who were very much oh

please stop something nothing wrong with you why

don't you start going jogging one doctor said

to me when when I was like this

so because that's the way I'd stopped in

the accident my evil and you it was

it was only through being honest and vulnerable

with friends that I then met a beautiful

psychotherapist who did the EMDR treatment with me

on literally on the first session my shoulders

came down here which was wonderful and I

came back on my young son at the

time he said mom it's like you've been

switched back on and I actually felt I

had been switched back on because with the

right treatment and the right solution to the

problem searching for that and it was by

being vulnerable with a friend and talking to

her that she then went away and she

said you know I wonder whether you should

go and see and that's how that started

so that holding it all together Louise and

not I'm pretending she was fine she could

not do that any longer because something was

given to her the way she had to

be vulnerable she she cried all the time

she watched TV all the time she ate

biscuits and drank tea all the time that's

not me again I see that as part

of my path so it's about not being

labelled by professionals or friends and family oh

you just need a holiday or it's understanding

what you need and I knew I needed

something because at the time the doctor just

wanted to put me on antidepressants and I'm

not against antidepressants I talk about that in

the book I have had a course of

them after I had one of my kids

I knew it wasn't that because I trusted

what I knew I trusted what I knew

and I knew that wasn't the answer the

answer was not yet available to me and

maybe I needed to have that first chink

of vulnerability to be able to walk that

that road it's interesting isn't it and I

was just I was just questioning my brain

is always switched to curious and I do

think that all the stuff that's out there

and I'm talking about when we consume it

from the mainstream media to the food to

everything we are being programmed to be controlled

whereas we need to deprogram and understand that

we aren't happy if you think the brain

as a computer programme we can put in

our own recording I mean one of my

favourite phrases that I coined years ago is

life's an illusion of our own creation so

what do you want your life to look

like they're constantly trying to programme us to

believe and not trust ourselves whereas actually we

do need to trust ourselves but where does

that trust Wendy where does that recognition come

from if you if you were explained for

somebody to actually start to recognise how to

trust themselves I know that I think inherently

throughout all of my life I've I think

I've obviously had the right sort of parents

in the right growth upbringing in terms of

what I have learned but then even as

a child you know I've recognised things like

as a ten-year-old my mum saying

oh I don't like tomatoes and I'm thinking

I knew then that I didn't want to

be influenced by mum's decision not to like

tomatoes because I knew that she was influencing

me by her language so I kind of

knew that about eight years old and I

didn't want to be I didn't want to

stop enjoying tomatoes because mum was saying she

didn't like eating tomatoes do you see what

I'm saying I kind of knew that already

then and I was always trusting my instinct

I always knew my own mind and even

if they're my my own minds taken me

on journeys which could be like that was

interesting but then that's the learning that you

get because when I got divorced 21 years

ago I then realised I got a second

stab at life in this lifetime and it's

been I can only just say 21 years

of constant change Louise exciting adventure that's what

I'd like to say exactly trusting yourself is

and and no matter your age you can

do this I absolute because if you want

to learn how to harness happiness let's say

you need to harness yourself as in know

that you can you can trust yourself you

and it is almost like this is what

you're here to to master because life is

meant to be lived with happiness and love

and kindness and fun and enjoyment but unless

you start to trust yourself you will come

so far away from yourself you'll be the

people pleaser you'll be there the party animal

or you'll be the person that everybody drains

of energy so I say bring it back

to yourself make sure you're having some quiet

moments to yourself every single day now people

will probably be rolling their eyes going oh

because this is what used to happen years

ago and it was sated like just do

five minutes meditation a day that oh I'm

not meditating and then they'd say I haven't

got the trousers or I don't write in

says this is not about that this is

just being quiet with yourself because the power

of of stillness that the power of just

sitting and noticing is is the start of

beginning to trust yourself because you are connecting

to yourself but if you can suddenly trust

yourself without taking away the noise without having

these beautiful moments of realisation in the moment

with yourself and it's not for anybody else's

consumption it's just for you you you you're

not going to do it so quite get

quiet first I would say maybe pick up

a pen and just say the last time

I trusted myself was and you might realise

it was actually quite a long time ago

and then you could you could explore that

on the page but when when was that

I last distrusted myself just put the word

trust on a page so the five T's

the true soul five T's are truth because

I believe Sarah everything starts with truth we

have to dig deep into our stuff and

that's the hardest thing for a lot of

people to do they they don't like the

truth but the truth is there to help

you to forward and change things so truth

trust because if we can master trust by

being quiet maybe doing some tools like you

know walking in nature without a podcast apart

from this one spend time in silence don't

pack your days out and your life out

with everything else's concerns and I know that's

hard because if we've got family we've got

elderly parents we've got but you owe it

to yourself to have this time for yourself

in your lifetime your unique meaning this it's

almost like a super boost of energy you

give to yourself that doesn't have any sugar

in it do you know what I mean

and without exploring being curious about yourself we

were all I believe we were all born

for a very particular reason I believe I

am aligned with the first part of my

bigger reason is to get this book out

to share this book with many people as

possible to help them help themselves stop pretending

and start living with truth and realise a

third of the tease is time so I'm

never going to say to anybody oh you

can yeah sign up to my programme I

can treat teach you trust in six weeks

it's not about that because we're all so

unique we're all so beautifully human exactly we'll

come to this how you're supposed to come

to it so give yourself time be patient

the p-word pause have patience be be

available for going backwards as you move forwards

it's all it's all that is what will

happen and then the tests will come so

you'll think you've connected now to myself and

I'm trusting myself and I made it I

didn't self-doubt and things start to flow

and then you'll be tested because that's part

of the journey and it's when you do

the tests as I do now yeah okay

fine okay I can learn from this and

the transitions as well so are there when

you're transitioning in a period of transition that

can feel uncomfortable because people around you are

seeing that you are changing they're not sure

why you're changing but you know you're changing

but you aren't necessarily available for everything in

the same way you used to be so

transition can be tricky as contest the five

T's would definitely help anybody looking to really

start to trust themselves and live I literally

I was asked yesterday on this show about

cancer what's what's cancer what's cancer taught you

most and I said happiness I said I'm

really really happy now and I see cancer

as part of my journey to happiness because

I got out of my own way and

I did the emotional the physical the mental

and the spiritual upgrades so yeah that that

you've just mentioned there is really important that's

that gratitude and that appreciation for what you've

actually gone through so rather than going oh

and moaning about things as you as you

hear so many people do when they're in

victim mode and they say oh well I've

tried this and I've done that and it's

not working and it's so and so so

or what have you until you come back

to the self until you start to take

ownership for okay well what could I do

differently and this isn't about what other people

think that you should be doing or telling

you what you should be doing because you

know you they don't know you they might

think that they know you and they might

think they know what's best for you but

trust me they don't and there's an awful

lot of narcissists out there that think that

they can tell you what to do as

well and that's why I see it all

with all the societal and patriarchal pressure because

it's all very narcissistic led and they are

very dominating people anyway so I'm going off

the tangent we knew we'd do that but

I wanted to come back to what you

were saying with all of that bringing that

back to where I was three years ago

when I had to well now husband and

I we were trying to sell our house

I've met him six years ago and he

was in the process of buying a house

I'd got a house and we decided we

wanted to relocate to the coast and I've

just I won't go into the story but

got a rental property in South Wales that

I was trying to sell as well to

try and just find the money to so

that we could move and relocate so we've

got all the all going on with the

conveyancing and it's just going on forever and

ever and ever and then I was having

to put my recruitment business into voluntary liquidation

because it hadn't survived Brexit COVID in the

economy and then at the same time my

son and I became estranged and we haven't

spoken for three and a half years but

all of that was happening at the same

time so that's those tests those challenges I

mean all of those things independently I'd be

able to handle or I could have handled

because I've always believed everything's working out wonderfully

and taken that mantra but suddenly everything I

felt like I was ambushed Louise everything at

the same time it felt like every single

exit point wasn't just blocked up it was

cemented in it broke me it broke me

and just broke me to the point I

was banging my head against the garage door

Gareth thought I was kicking it but I

was banging my head against it and it

was big bruise then now then he had

to stop me banging my head against the

corner of a door I felt I needed

to be cracked open to be able to

to surrender to what was unfolding for me

but it get you're absolutely right Sarah so

I'm sorry to hear that you physically did

did that but you see you wouldn't think

it of me would you you wouldn't think

it would get you I mean I'm a

strong person but that's that's how life has

a habit of it takes you to extremes

so you can look as you you needed

you needed to move on didn't you I

did and it was about letting go of

the stuff that no longer served me and

there was an awful amount of healing I

mean and we can touch on this as

well because I know you've you've explored lots

of other things you know healing wise which

we've touched upon when we've spoken before and

in your book you know it's not one

size fits all there are so many holistic

methodologies out there and as you explore and

you get digging further into the spiritual side

of things I mean I've done all sorts

from Reiki to EFT to shamanic stuff too

and I've done lots of journey work and

lots of you know I've done meditation I've

done also all sorts of things on page

126 is surrender surrender isn't about giving up

it's about trusting the path your soul already

knows and that's the truth of it isn't

it because we are all here having a

journey and the journey is about learning what

we wanted I believe we choose the lifetime

we come into to have the lessons we

need to learn because we want to evolve

and vibrate on a different sort of frequency

if you like and the more aware you

become the higher it becomes up and as

you guys talked about the transition there will

be people that fall out of your life

but as they fall out of your life

then other that gives a vacancy for other

people to come in and other opportunities to

come in and there's so much shifting could

different parts components moving that is a beautiful

way of we are not here to control

all those different components on those different and

that can be a big mistake of a

lot of people and when you realise that

actually perhaps if you've been the energy behind

a relationship or you always feel you're the

one that that does everything if you can

sit back and really look at the truth

of that relationship maybe that isn't somebody that

is supposed to travel on with you but

they're only travelling on with you until you've

mastered the ability to say to yourself I'm

done here type thing because not everybody is

for every chapter seeing them as guides and

teachers I mean I was in I was

with my ex-husband for 20 20 years

then had my 20s in my 40s it

ended up dating ended up in another relationship

it was very challenging and at the end

of that when we split up when he

left I thought I'd rather be single than

in another challenging relationship but I was always

appreciative and grateful for the lessons I learned

because of his behaviour because of what I'd

had to learn because of what I'd unlearned

through all the years with my ex-husband

because I'd been moved away from my family

and my friends and without going into all

the detail by the time I got divorced

I hadn't been out for six years I

didn't have a life so my life looks

nothing like the life I was living was

living 21 years ago and this is what

I'm saying it's all you know echoes when

I was reading your book there's so many

sort of parallels there's differences obviously because we're

different people but there's been so much shared

learning through different experiences and when we embrace

those and we as you said stop trying

to control the outcome but feel into the

energy of it all and become who we're

meant to be or who we are already

but we've we've dampened ourselves down to conform

to fit in and be around people who

get rankled or react badly if we be

we are ourselves but we we as long

as we're not doing outwardly anything to actively

hurt anybody else or any other sentient being

we are we are in full permission to

be ourselves Shusul is my brand server as

you know and I believe that when you

can operate daily with love happiness and kindness

from your true soul self life is I

want to use word sparkles because I love

the word sparkles it's sparkly because you see

everything through a through a lens that wasn't

available to you before but you can't do

that you're still pretending you're fine when you're

not you can maybe get me now and

again but if you really clean the lenses

of your of your life your glasses and

you notice the diff you notice everything you

notice that I'm looking out for that I've

gotten so many flowers out there beautiful flowers

you notice the cloud formation you just notice

everything every day and you don't say oh

it's raining again because actually you appreciate the

rain I don't know I've not changed massively

I just appreciate things that are much deeper

level and I am grateful for every single

day that I can shape relationship nature business

opportunity everything I just appreciate at a deeper

level beautiful because it gives back to me

a feeling of excitement and joy and that's

what we hear from as a human being

I was too much a human doing and

it nearly killed me my trust in my

own knowing finding in the cancer on both

occasions and pushing quietly quiet rule to be

heard was always going to be part of

my path so I could share in a

book in a page turner apparently of why

I don't want another woman to have to

go through that no exactly and I absolutely

agree with you I think everybody would benefit

from reading your book I really do because

it's it's honest it's true it's authentic and

in this crazy world of AI and all

this sort of sloppy salad stuff that's out

there and different people trying to tell you

to be this and all the control that

it's all comes back to itself and if

everybody starts to come back to themselves the

collective can push against that sort of naught

point whatever is one percent that are trying

to control because they don't have permission over

our free will nobody has permission over our

free will and once you understand that and

once you recognise that like you said you

trust your instinct and your intuition which is

your superpower you can stand firm in yourself

you it's not to be pushed around it's

not to be influenced it's you know we

we can take things I mean I've been

to a really fantastic business event this last

week and there was so much there that

I was able to take away but you

know you don't take away everything from what

somebody says there are certain things that resonate

and it's recognising those bits and the resonator

oh that's interesting I'm curious about that let's

learn a little bit more let's press into

that but it's not about trying to do

everything all of the time it's distilling all

of that because I did come back I'll

be honest as well a little bit overwhelmed

I'm going oh I still am a person

who has far too many tabs open Louise

situation weren't you because suddenly you were you

were in this overwhelm and then you probably

thought should I be doing this should I

be doing it so you're really testing your

own truth now with yourself is do I

need that should I listen to that that

didn't resonate so yeah you're being tested before

you transition to what Sarah is moving to

us I mean we are and then and

if we are open and we are curious

about that and we are exploring stuff things

opportunities present themselves I mean if I if

I go back to you know when we

first met and it was sharing a photograph

of me wearing latex in one of your

Facebook group that you had just because there

was an opportunity I think it was to

do with bit purple and here we are

anyway and because of that that prompted me

then to open up a huge an Instagram

account which has now got like 60,000

followers or thereabouts and there's it open to

so many more doors because I've stepped into

the truth of who I am it's somebody

who likes shiny things as well as glittery

things and silvery imagine if you hadn't stepped

into that and done that first photograph which

was a big thing at the time I

do remember you you wouldn't be your true

self and you would be half showing up

as Sarah and half hiding Lucy latex yeah

be yourself always be yourself because everyone else

is taken and this book through the raw

experiences of honesty of parts of my life

it's not by all means the whole of

my life live a friend did say I

was surprised you didn't put a B and

C and I'm like how long a book

was I supposed to write because it's not

full you know a full life history of

Louise budget but you'll see that I'm happy

to share them because I do think the

learnings behind each and everything that I share

are universal because truth is universal Sarah it's

nothing something I've just come up with it's

it's runs through absolutely everything and then across

the globe and I really would love this

book to become a timeless book that people

will go back to and I'll think do

you know I really feel I've gone a

little bit off kilter I might just get

that book up because there are some exercises

and after each part there are reflective exercises

because I'm not one for suddenly putting you

on a mini course at the end of

a flowing chapter or a flowing these are

just opportunities for you to drop into yourself

think well while you're with me on the

journey or how does that relate and you

can also just use it and divinate as

well you can just literally open open the

book and and and find a page I

mean the first thing that I I open

when I went so I was just reflecting

back through a few things we are wise

women we have always been as souls we

carry an ancient connection to our bodies a

connection that is both powerful and mysterious yet

to be deciphered by science while science has

its place patients should never dismiss their powerful

intuition always ensure it is switched on and

listened to and that was the first thing

when I I used the book this morning

to divinate and I went that is that

is so powerful so this book this fabulous

book by Louise which I'm going to get

Gareth to read as well it's been on

his pile I had to pull it away

from his pile this morning I think men

would be interested in reading it as well

if I could just share at the very

last minute it was for every soul who

knows there's more to their story and marketing

perspective I changed it to woman maybe a

second copy print run will be sold because

I don't think it is there are men

reading it my husband went up for retirement

do in London and he said I couldn't

believe it so so came up to me

I've read your wife's book it's amazing and

he's like a 65 year old guy he

said it was really really enjoyed it there

you go and on that note you can

buy it on Amazon however Louise is offering

it to anybody listening to this harnessing happiness

web harnessing happiness podcast via her website authenticity

votes it's not AI here you know if

you go to Louise's website which is www

.louisebudgeon.com that's budging B-U-D-G

-E-N so that's dot com and if

you order the book through there you can

have a signed copy and if you put

in HH26 you'll get 10% discount and

it will be signed and sent to you

and I'm sure it will be in a

lovely packaging knowing Louise oh Louise thank you

thank you thank you so so much for

joining me as I said right at the

outset it's always a pleasure spending time with

you I always feel like I've been bathed

in loveliness I just love our conversations they

could go on for hours but I'm very

mindful that we need to to sign off

so is there any one last thing that

you would like to share or say to

the listeners the viewers aside from obviously heading

to your website and buying the book or

nipping on to Amazon and buying it too

what would you like to say in conclusion

you are a beautiful unique human being don't

forget that please if you realise you're doing

too much take time for you and find

those five minutes to pause and be with

yourself because that's where your magic lies and

thank you all for listening to this harnessing

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